The Most Excellent Way {A Guest Post}

To start the month of February, I am thrilled to introduce my friend, sister in Christ, and fellow encourager, Christy Mobley. Christy’s heart for the Lord is evident in everything she writes, and she inspires me to love others the way he does. Today she is talking to us about marriage and sacrificial love, a message which we all need to hear again and again.

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Christy is a wife, mother, writer, mentor, and Life Purpose Coach. She is passionate about encouraging women to move forward, and press on through their struggles, seeking God’s presence in every bump and turn in the road.

You can follow Christy on her blog, Joying in the Journey.

God said love him

1 Corinthians 12:31, “…And now I will show you the most excellent way.” (NIV)

Husbands and wives have spats from time to time and well, me and my hubby are no different. As a matter of fact, you might say in the first part of our marriage we were exceptional “spatters”!

We are so completely different, and isn’t that usually the case? I’ve always  wondered why God would have opposites attract. Truth be known, I’d be a little bit better off  being more like my hubby and he’d be a little better off  (in my estimation) being more like me. If you think about it,  it’s true what it says in James 4:1,  that we argue because of our selfish desires. Human love is self-seeking.

However, by rubbing each other the wrong way, we can rub off some of our hard ways. While the chafing of disagreement may be painful, when used for God’s purposes, the shine results is excellent.

Last year God gave us another opportunity to polish that shine.

David and I had an argument and to be honest with you I don’t even remember what it was about. I only remember it was a doozie.  I also recall, pridefully I might add, I was right. But because he was leaving for a short business trip I apologized quickly, taking credit for my part of the argument (hey, I’m learning) and he reluctantly accepted.  I thought that was the end of it. When he came home he only had a few hours before another trip but being that apologies were made I thought we were fine.

I was wrong.

He came home as prickly as a porcupine ready for a fight, very uncharacteristic for my laid-back hubby.

Maybe you’re like me, when half of you is injured you feel crippled all over.  That day I felt quadriplegic.  And the real truth?  I was mad at the way David was acting. He hadn’t really accepted my apology.

When he left again, I turned to God for healing…Hubby’s healing! I wanted to know what was wrong with him. I prayed the verse in  Jeremiah 33:3 which says, ” Call to me and I will answer you and tell you great and unsearchable things you do not know.”

As I prayed for God to convict David’s heart, God convicted mine. I remember it like it was yesterday.

As I prayed to hear great and unsearchable things, I heard God whisper,

love him

There was no mistaking the instructionGod clearly said, love him.  He didn’t whisper, apologize again. There was not even a, give him the cold shoulder. There was only. . . love him.

When David came home, I gave my love to a humbled heart. We were two different people who had surrendered ourselves in obedience to God.

In 1 Corinthians 12:31, when Paul writes,  “. . . and now I will show you the most excellent way,” he is talking  about the excellent way of God’s love; the excellent way we should love one another. The following chapter, 1 Corinthians 13, commonly called the love chapter, is where  Paul explains what this love looks like.

God’s Word is His love story to us. From beginning to end, a story of sacrifice.

If David and I were exactly alike, sharing the same wants and desires, there would be no need for sacrifice. Then what would we learn of real love? I beg to say, nothing. But in God’s infinite wisdom he made opposites attract. And in rubbing each other the wrong way, with God’s help, we smooth our rough edges and find a better way.

A sacrificial way.

The most excellent way… to love.


*Linking up with Kelly Balarie & Friends, Jennifer Dukes Lee and Meredith Bernard to encourage and be encouraged. Come join us.

12 thoughts on “The Most Excellent Way {A Guest Post}

  1. Christy,
    I enjoyed your guest post. When it comes to arguments in marriage, I have to remind myself that I might “win the battle” but ultimately lose the war. I know I need to listen more to the words God whispers in my ear – like “love him”. When my husband and my differences rub against each other we jokingly call it “Heavenly sandpaper”. God uses us both to refine each other. 🙂


    • Oh yes, God uses my husband and I to refine each other too, Bev. We really do bring out the best in each other, despite our differences. Blessings to you, my friend.


  2. So very true!!! I have learned more about myself through marriage then any other time in my life. My husband amazes me. He has put down his wants for our family. Not only that, he also extends himself to my aging widow mom. He loves her. I know he rather do something else, but he doesn’t. He does what is right. He is so sensitive to me. I have struggled with issues of abandonment from past relationships. I have struggled with insecurity and worry and this used to affect our marriage when my husband would have long hours at work or take alone time longer then I wanted him too. I would start fights that would be about being left out and not important to him. My loving husband knows that. He has changed his patterns of doing things and prepares me when changes are about to take place on his job or when he feels he needs to take time out for himself. He makes an effort to make sure he spends time with me. I share all of this because he cares enough to change. He understands my weaknesses and he supports me as I grow. He didn’t try to change me ever. He just changed and this made me change. I am so thankful!!!


    • Lisa, it sounds like you have a wonderful husband. I am so glad that God gave you a man who helps show you what love truly looks like. Thank you for sharing your thoughts here today. Have a blessed week!

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  3. This spoke to my heart. I pray often asking God, “What do I do?” (in regards to marriage) And I’ve heard “love him” as a reply. Man, that is so hard! Thank you for the reminder as to why it is important! (the most excellent way…)


    • It is hard! There have been several occasions in my marriage when I had to let go of being “right” and simply love for the sake of honoring God. Thank you so much for sharing today, Dana.


  4. I love this “As I prayed for God to convict David’s heart, God convicted mine.” Oh how often I have had God do that to me too during 28 years of marriage – “love him” always a great answer not always what I want to hear but usually what I need to hear. Great post Christy- thanks for sharing Abby! Love you both ladies 🙂


  5. Hello to 2 of my fave bloggers! Christy, loved your words. Sacrificial love is something that the Lord seems to want to work out with me. Thank you for reminding me that this grind is really about grinding us down to the image of Christ. These words are important. 3 Cheers for 2 amazing gals!


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  7. Christy -Joining you from TellHisStory. Love your wisdom and honesty. Also, I have a smile from God’s answer to your prayer…God’s answers are somehow piercingly true, aren’t they (I’ve been told to ‘love’, too, when I was looking for a different answer). Blessings, sandraj


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