There’s nothing like marriage to show you how selfish of a person you truly are. Outside of your parents and possibly a roommate, there are few people who are with you day in and day out, and see the good, bad, and all the in-between. The dirty laundry that’s accumulated for days. The dishes piled in the sink.
Nothing wipes the honeymoon out of your eyes like the mundane monotony of the day-to-day.
Your husband? He sees the credit card debt you’ve been accumulating. If you let him, he may even see the bones you’ve been hiding in that closet of yours for far too long.
I used to think that people got married so that they’d be happy. They’d have someone to wake up to each morning, to take evening walks with after dinner, to share life and journey through all the peaks and valleys of life.
And while all of those things are wonderful and certainly aspects we hope to achieve, I realized they are not what this sacred covenant is about. Being a wife isn’t simply about having someone to grow old with or rock in rickety chairs on the porch when we’re in our eighties.
Here’s what the Bible has to say about what a wife should look like. In Proverbs 31:11, it states, “Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value.”
He lacks nothing. Can my husband say this about me? I would like to think so, but knowledge of my own human nature tells me different.
It reminds me of that snippy remark I made the other night when he arrived home from work late. It shows me times when I’ve withdrawn a loving embrace because I simply didn’t feel like giving it, even though I knew he needed it.
In Gary Thomas’ book, Sacred Marriage, he asserts that God didn’t design marriage to merely make us happy. He created marriage to make us holy.
Holy, sisters. I don’t know about you, but I haven’t felt very holy lately.
Our marriage, as stated in Ephesians 5, is a living picture of the Christ’s relationship with the church. It is a testimony to all who see it, a placard which states in loud letters, “You see this? This is what God’s love looks like.”
This knowledge fills me with a huge sense of responsibility. I want to be that wife my husband can look at and say, “I have full confidence in her. I trust her with my life. She is the picture of Christ’s love.”
To move from glory to glory we must begin with a step forward.
Today I’m gathering with a beautiful group of soul sisters at For His Glory blog as we study Proverbs 31. Won’t you join us? Click the button below to find out more.